So, I was looking at taking an apartment in a building not too far from here that caters to persons 55+ in age. There are some, like this one, that have an income limit because they get a tax credit. Something like that. Just one of the several things for which I never received an adequate explanation. So of course they can't just take you word for things, everything has to be checked out. Just how extensive this everything was is another of those areas where the explanation was hazy.
There followed a lot of drama at this point, both on my side and theirs. Mine because I like to understand and I'm a people-pleaser, theirs because I was slow to realize all they wanted to know. At the end of this phase I was feeling rather violated and vulnerable.
Turns out, my income is slightly more than what is allowed, so, since I wasn't interested in changing that, I could not take an apartment in their building. This all took a couple weeks and here I am back at square one, looking for somewhere else to live.
I would have preferred being treated as though I have a brain or two in my head, I would have liked to have had, in writing, a list of the information that was needed and an explanation, in writing, of the process used to calculate a person's eligibility.
Another learning experience. I now know the kinds of things to look out for. I don't remember apartment hunting being this obtuse. In Japan it was more a matter of the landlord being willing to rent to a foreigner.